March is Women’s history month and the University of Mary Washington has a series of lectures and exhibits planned to supposedly celebrate this. While there are several lectures dealing with some historical issues of interest relating to women, the events seem to mainly be an excuse to push the feminist agenda onto our campus. The keynote speaker in the lineup is a blogger for National Abortion Rights Action League’s Pro Choice America (NARAL), there is also a film highlighting the challenges of women running for public office.
Is this what we should be focusing on? Should we be highlighting the victimization of women?
While the movement may have been begun, with the 19th amendment, to gain legal equality for women, something we all agree on; the movement quickly became perverted by other aspects. This new feminism, what we think of today when we hear the word, is rooted in Betty Friedan’s book, The Feminine Mystique which many view as the manifesto for the movement. This book however is directed against femininity. This new wave, what is the basis of today’s feminist movement encourages the victim mentality, androgyny, as well as the link between the sexual revolution and feminism.
“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent,” Eleanor Roosevelt famously stated. When we place ourselves in the role of a victim we see that we end up there. By bemoaning our plights and being angry about our supposed history of inferiority we focus on these negative feelings. We are encouraged to think of motherhood, and being a stay at home mother as somehow lower than the life of a career woman. What if the two can both be first priority? The goal is then to balance the skills it takes to be successful in the working world, such as focus with the skills of being a mother, where distraction to new tasks or to children who believe they ought to be the center of your attention. This should be the goal to be able to do both and yes, that means arguing for more of certain rights.
There is a desire to be treated like men and reject fully or belittle the sex differences. In another of the exalted books of the feminist movement, Simone de Beauvoir’s The Second Sex, Beauvior implies that men are better than women and speaks of masculinity as somehow above femininity. She asserts that women are capable of manliness, and attempts to create a gender neutral society. Women however have not been liberated by this gender neutral environment, but have in fact been trapped by it. Instead of being held back from careers they may have aspired to, they are now pushed further than they may want to go.
In their fight against the ‘double standard,’ there is the mistaken idea that autonomy is linked to being just as sexually promiscuous as men. While earlier feminist movements in the 19th and early 20th century argued for men’s sexual behavior to be raised to that of women’s, the new wave argued to lower the standard of women to that of men. While we may acknowledge the double standard, we need to be wary of throwing it away too haphazardly. Women have three main disadvantages when we attempt to play this game of promiscuity; there is the issue of pregnancy, the fact that women contact STD’s much easier and the generally more heartache prone nature of women. By women’s view of empowerment being linked to sexual promiscuity we in fact undermine the very foundations of femininity. This promiscuity devalues women by men seeing them as something that can be used for their own ends and women accepting this status as the tools of men.
Feminists threw away the moral superiority of women, a beautiful counteraction to the physical superiority of men. There is an obvious void in what we call the feminist movement today and a need for a new movement that can do justice not only to the similarities between the sexes but also to the differences. While the state should continue to be gender neutral, it is important that society recognize gender differences. The slogan of the personal as political need to be revamped, because wouldn’t it be better for all of us if the personal wasn’t political?